{"id":298388,"date":"2023-11-27T17:24:27","date_gmt":"2023-11-27T17:24:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tellmysport.com\/?p=298388"},"modified":"2023-11-27T17:24:27","modified_gmt":"2023-11-27T17:24:27","slug":"kieron-dyer-relishing-second-chance-after-live-saving-liver-transplant","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tellmysport.com\/soccer\/kieron-dyer-relishing-second-chance-after-live-saving-liver-transplant\/","title":{"rendered":"Kieron Dyer relishing second chance after live-saving liver transplant"},"content":{"rendered":"
It is not quite December yet, I know, but it doesn\u2019t matter. It is as good a time as any to present an alternative version of A Christmas Carol. This is English football\u2019s version, for this year anyway. It is Kieron Dyer\u2019s version.<\/p>\n
Eleven weeks ago, the former England midfielder lay dying in Addenbrooke\u2019s Hospital in Cambridge. His liver was being ravaged by a rare disease, primary sclerosing cholangitis, and, after several bursts of false hope, surgeons were running out of time to find a donor organ for the transplant that would give him a second chance at life.<\/p>\n
When one of his friends visited him, Dyer, 44, looked so ill, so thin, so broken, that when the friend and his wife got back to their car in the hospital car park, he burst into tears. He told his wife he was convinced Dyer would be dead before the chance of a transplant ever materialised.<\/p>\n
Even though he was, he says, \u2018as yellow as Bart Simpson\u2019, Dyer did not give up hope. He was in hospital for three months but he kept telling himself that a miracle would happen. He knew he could rely on the love of his wife, Hollie, and his mum and his kids and a few close friends. But beyond that, he didn\u2019t think too many people cared whether he lived or died.<\/p>\n
He still thought of himself as public enemy number one, the footballer who blew it, the player who everybody thought wasted his talent, the man who was smart too late and old too soon, the poster boy for the Baby Bentley Brigade, the Ayia Napa party king, the millionaire footballer with more money than sense.<\/p>\n
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Kieron Dyer was ill, thin and broken two days prior to his liver transplant (left), but there was a marked difference two days after the operation (right)<\/p>\n
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Dyer told his wife, Holly (right) that he thought he would be dead before he got the chance to have a transplant following his battle with the rare disease primary sclerosing cholangitis<\/p>\n
He knew, too, that people who did not know him might not view him as a particularly sympathetic figure. He had been sexually abused by an uncle as a child and as a result, he often presented an austere, unsmiling face. He did not want to let anyone in. He did not want to trust anyone. He put up barrier after barrier.<\/p>\n
He was hard on his kids because he wanted to make them tough. He wanted to make sure they were never, ever in the position he had found himself in where someone could prey on them and take advantage of them. He found it hard to open up to anyone.<\/p>\n
And then, on September 18, a compatible liver was \u2018retrieved\u2019 from a donor. Someone\u2019s son, someone\u2019s dad, someone\u2019s brother, had died so now there was a chance that he might live. The operation took nine hours and when he came round from it, he was in so much pain he told the doctors to let him go.<\/p>\n
The next day, he was sitting up in bed. Three weeks later, he had made such a good recovery, he was allowed to go home. I spoke to him on the phone and his voice sounded different. It sounded lighter. It was filled with a kind of optimism I hadn\u2019t heard in it before even though we were only talking about LeBron James or the Las Vegas grand prix or how badly Shakur Stevenson had fought.<\/p>\n
Last week, I stopped in to see him at his home in Ipswich. He spent much of the hour I was there wiping away tears.<\/p>\n
\u2018The fact that someone else died so that I might live is something I still can\u2019t process,\u2019 he says as he sits on his couch, his two dogs fussing around by his feet. \u2018I haven\u2019t spoken about it until now because it is such an overwhelming thought. Maybe 99% of the population only gets one chance of life and I have been given two.<\/p>\n
\u2018The reason I have been given two chances is because someone died. To have that responsibility and burden to do that person justice is\u2026I still can\u2019t come to terms with it. There are days where I just cry. I am happy. I am not sad. It is just such a powerful thought that someone had to die.<\/p>\n
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Dyer earned 33 caps for England, but some feel he did not achieve his full potential\u00a0<\/p>\n
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Dyer was also once a contestant on I’m a Celebrity, Get Me Out of Here in 2015<\/p>\n
\u2018The burden of living my life right and making them proud is a momentous thing. People say already they can see a difference in my mood and my mannerisms. To be given a second chance, I have got to grasp it and make each day count.<\/p>\n
\u2018How do you pay it back? The first thing is to make sure I never jeopardise my liver. I wasn\u2019t an alcoholic so there will be a time where I could drink alcohol if I wanted to, in moderation, but I will never do that. I will never jeopardise my liver. I have never taken drugs and I will stay that way.<\/p>\n
\u2018I will try and live every day to the fullest, try not to waste a single day. I have got a lot more positive outlook on life now. It\u2019s a shame that it took someone else\u2019s tragedy for me to be able to see it.\u2019<\/p>\n
So far, Dyer\u2019s recovery has gone well. He has regular blood tests and the results are all good. There have been no signs of his body rejecting his new liver. His doctors are reducing his daily intake of pills and he has been given the all-clear to drive a car again. Later in the afternoon, he is heading to the cinema with Hollie to see the new Hunger Games movie.<\/p>\n
And there are other things. A life in the game meant he missed most of his kids\u2019 sports days and birthdays. Now, he has started going to watch his youngest son, Kody, 12, play for his new football team on Saturday mornings. \u2018It means a lot to him,\u2019 he says, \u2018and it means a lot to me, too. I am going to dedicate a lot more time to my family. When you get a second chance, you realise family and friends are more important than anything else.<\/p>\n
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Dyer, who played for several Premier League clubs including Newcastle (pictured) says his second shot at life has shown him family and friends is more important than anything<\/p>\n
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The 44-year-old is pictured during a previous Mail Sport interview in 2018<\/p>\n
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\u2018I was in hospital for over three months and I must have had four people come to see me every single day. It\u2019s a trek from Ipswich to Cambridge, too. I always used to think I was public enemy number one and that I was hated but when things got real, I found out I have got a lot of people who care for me.<\/p>\n
\u2018When I was in hospital, waiting for the transplant, I was at my lowest. I was a nightmare to deal with. I was dying so you can imagine how moody and erratic I was and not once did my family take it personally. All they showed was love, love, love. How could they put up with me? They drove three hours a day every day for three months. That\u2019s unconditional love.<\/p>\n
\u2018The outpouring of love from family and friends and the football world was so powerful. I\u2019m an Ipswich boy and our biggest rivals are Norwich. I don\u2019t really like Norwich. When I woke up from my surgery, there was a hamper from Norwich City saying \u201cget well soon\u201d from the football club. I thought that was absolutely class.<\/p>\n
\u2018The first Ipswich game I went to was against Plymouth and it was an emotional day because of the outpouring of love from the fans. I was with my son, Kaden, and I was trying to hold it together. People were coming up to me as I was walking to the ground with my boy and they were saying they were proud of me.<\/p>\n
\u2018I\u2019m a coach at Chesterfield now and I got the same from their fans, too. It has been overwhelming. Paul Cook, the Chesterfield manager, came to see me. The Ipswich boss, Kieran McKenna, asked if he could visit. I\u2019d only overlapped with him at Portman Road for about a month. I think that\u2019s testament to the man.\u2019<\/p>\n
And so, of the many new things he wants to savour, the things he wants to repair, the experiences he wants to embrace and the duties he wants to fulfil, one commitment stands out above all the others.<\/p>\n
It is not compulsory to write to the family of the person who donated their liver but Dyer is in no doubt that he wants to do it. He thinks about it all the time. It is just that so far, finding the gravity and the depth of what he wants to say has defeated him.<\/p>\n
\u2018They don\u2019t tell you much about your donor,\u2019 he says. \u2018I just know we were similar in age and that the new liver I\u2019ve got is a Rolls Royce of a liver, with no fat. Every time I think about starting the letter to their family, I can\u2019t find the words.<\/p>\n
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Ipswich Town manager Kieran McKenna was among those to ask to visit Dyer post-operation<\/p>\n
\u2018What do you say? It\u2019s a heart-breaking thing. You want to thank them so much. It is because of them and the donor that you\u2019re alive. They have given me a second chance but they have lost someone close to them. My wife and mum want to send letters, too.<\/p>\n
\u2018I have heard about television programmes where a person who has been the beneficiary of a heart transplant has met with the donor\u2019s family. I wouldn\u2019t know what to say if I met my donor\u2019s family. I would probably break down and just cuddle them and not let them go.<\/p>\n
\u2018I think I have got wiser as I\u2019ve got older, I think I have matured in the last few years but this is different. Before this, I wasn\u2019t seeing as clearly as I should have done. As one more example, I still held grudges against people. I don\u2019t any more. Life\u2019s too short.\u2019<\/p>\n
Primary sclerosing cholangitis (PSC) is a rare chronic liver disease in which the bile ducts inside and outside the liver progressively decrease in size due to inflammation and scarring.<\/p>\n
Late symptoms include itching, jaundice (yellowing of the skin and whites of the eyes), fever, shaking and chills.\u00a0<\/p>\n
At present there is no known cure or specific treatment for PSC and preliminary trials are still ongoing.<\/p>\n
In the book ‘Blumgart’s Surgery of the Liver, Biliary Tract and Pancreas’, the medical authors wrote that vitiligo can be an early symptom of PSC.<\/p>\n
Vitiligo is when white patches develop on the skin. It is caused by the lack of melanin, a pigment in the skin.<\/p>\n
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Current evidence suggests that the disease may be triggered by an unknown bacteria or virus in people who are genetically programmed to get the disease<\/p>\n
\u00a0Source: British Liver Trust\u00a0<\/p>\n